True Best Friends Forever

We all know that forever is a long time and that is it not always possible to be True Best Friends-Forever.  Oh yes, I have a friend whom I have know for a very long time and it is a wonderful, lasting friendship.  We have experienced many ups and down, mostly ups I will say, but as any friendship goes, there are times when life changes and we may be in different cities or different places of life. Our friendship has endured and survived many issues of everyday life. I had a Nursery School when her children were young and they were nutured and loved by me, as my own.  There are so many things that has taken our friendship to all levels and places that some people never share.  We have a bond, something good, something real and something lasting.

I also had a childhood friend that I grew up with, we went to the same school, we played together and we stayed together.  I loved her family and enjoyed our time together.  I can say that I do not know if she loved my family or not but something happen in this friend's life that changed her forever. I will call her Lori, not her real name of course.  Lori went to nursing school, graduated, married and had 2 children of her own.  She was a really good Nurse and I worked at the same clinic with her for awhile.  We were close.  Our sons were almost the same age. One day, a tragedy happened, Lori's father was murdered.  It was an awful death and this would cause Lori to change forever, it seems.  I do not see Lori anymore, my life changed many times since then and no I haven't told you the whole story but it would take awhile and the point I am getting to here is not the exact circumstances of how Lori changed toward me but showing you that sometimes people change from trama that causes "forever" to go away.  She has her own life, a good life, just as I have a good life.  I will say this much, Lori became judgemental and could not except her own frailities, she denied them but would dwell on what other people had done and found no tolerance of them.  In other words when someone has to put someone else down to make themselves look good...you get the picture.

When I walked away from this friendship, I walked without blinking an eye at the time.  I never returned.  Did I ever think that I would make that kind of decision.  No! Am I sorry that it ended? Yes. Do I think it will ever be fixed? Probably not but I believe it is better to end a friendship than to let recentment build and become total enemies.  I have seen her, we have talked, not about anything personal or important, it will never be the same. 

True Best Friends Forever does exist as in my life, but then there are times that for one reason or the other, friendships end. It is sad, it can hurt and you will always remember the good times.  Things happen for a reason.  Let me give you something in closing to read and this can relate to any kind of friend or friendship or relationship, it is truly wonderful.  I carry this in my purse and occassionally re-read..I hope you like it.

Comes the Dawn

  After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security, and you
begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises, and you begin to
accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child.

And you learn to build all your roads on today, becuase tomorrow's ground is too
uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong,
and you really do have worth,
and you learn and learn....
With every goodbye, you learn.

**Author Unknown

Sometimes we say goodbye; even when we have been True Best Friends Forever.

God Bless and you might like personal growth and perfection.