I get excited when writing about True Best Friends and especially about why True Best Friends-Don't Lie. That is to each other!! No, not anyone should lie period but I am almost sure we all have. Is it ever necessary to lie to a friend, my answer is simply, no! I am probably being a little forward here in telling you what I think but for me there is no circumstance that would be best to tell my True Best Friend a lie. I know what your are thinking here. You are thinking that I am wanting to possibly hurt someone by telling them an awful truth they did not know about their spouse and it make their life miserable or possibly causing an action that could effect the rest of their life. No, don't lie but sometimes it is best to "shut your mouth" and "mind your own business". Having said that; this would be a situation that I for one would pray about intensely. There may be times when the circumstance are not good anyway, there may be times when you may think someone else's life is one way and it be totally different than preceived. True Best Friends are sometimes strange as to what they reveal about their personal relationships. For one reason or another they do not tell the whole story, not so much a lie, but what goes on at home, they leave at home. This is not all bad and a very good idea in so many instances. Also, a True Best Friend may think that they do not feel an emotion when telling you they don't care about something within their relationship,when really it is all about their frame of mind at that moment. For instance; Jane may say she doesn't care if Johnny finds a new women friend because she is unhappy anyway. Jane may have had a argument that day and is feeling a little remorse "only". Most any spouse does care about these kinds of things, period, dot. Let it happen and you will find out. You have to be sure, you know what you think know.
It is not considered a lie to "keep your mouth shut". I do not feel that you should willfully hurt someone when you do not know all of the circumstances. It could have been a one night stand...ONE. Should it have happened? I won't even answer that...you know that one already. It might not ever happen again, and for someone who absolutely has no pattern or shown any kind of clue, it probably will not. I have seen this happen. I do not think it is my duty to play God. This day and time, telling a friend their spouse is unfaithful could be the worst thing one could do. This I say because I have seen some circumstances that it would have been better if they found it out themselves or never knew it at all.
To other areas that call for the truth no matter what, I say that if a friend needs to change the the way she dresses, I am probably going to tell her, if she ask. If my friend needs to be a better wife and she ask my opinion, I am going to tell her the truth. True Best Friends-Don't Lie when ask for the truth and when the truth will help them, it should be given. I try to speak the truth when it is necessary always, but then again I can find other ways to say what needs to be said without hurting them more than is necessary. That is at the heart of doing what is right. We should never want to cause someone grief or hurt their feeling. On serious matters, we just have to know when to speak and when not to speak. True Best Friends don't lie but neither do they compromise their friendship by being almighty. What is love?
My opinions are my opinions and they may not agree with yours. I do not think I have all of the secrets to the actions of True Best Friends and when they should not lie. I do believe that if you love someone and you know they are hurting themselves by their actions, you should always speak the truth to help them. Somethings are better left unsaid, I have learned this the hard way. The most difficult part of being True Best Friends and not lying, is to know when something is better left alone.
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